The Elephant In The Room: The White Couch9
Back before we had kids we lived in a posh condo and all of our furniture was bought as a couple. We were newlyweds and we enjoyed having a double income with no kids. After we got married we moved into a new condo and we sold all of our individual furniture from our single days.
It was such a fun time in our lives; going out and being together, walking the streets and looking at interior decor shops. We were building our home as a couple and it felt carefree and fun. Years later and we still use most of the pieces that we bought back then. However, some of the purchases were made before ‘certain people’ walked around with peanut butter on their hands and blueberry yogurt on their mouths. Those pieces of furniture are highly regretted and create stress.
A couple of the pieces of furniture we picked out moved nicely from us being a single couple to a full on family of 4, what didn’t work was sold on Craigslist. We bought awhite micro fibre sofa bed to fill our guest room and it is one of the purchases we have to date. When we bought the white couch (from here on out to be known as WC) we were thinking about how we could host people who came to visit. It went into our second bedroom and was infrequently used and rarely sat on.
Then we had our fussy baby Ben and my husband spent a good portion of the first few months sleeping on it while I bed shared with the baby. We eventually moved apartments and the WC went from being in a guest room to being out in the living room and being used every single day. At first I didn’t really notice the fact that there was always kid dirt on the WC. It was easy to clean up with a wet cloth and not such a big deal to take care of. Guests would ooh and ahh that we had a WC in a home with young children. I always told them that it seemed like no big deal and was easy to keep clean.
It has been at least three solid years since we reached the lifespan of our WC sofa bed. I don’t think the WC can handle much more dirt and I think that something needs to be done. The WC is something I have grown to hate and every little stain makes me increase my level of hate towards it. My husband and I even had a passionate debate about going on a family vacation versus buying a new couch and we never reached a mutual decision. Instead, we just keep living with the WC and it is used and abused and has given us more use than what it was worth back in 2007.
You see, my dream would be to donate the WC and buy a lovely darkish sectional to replace it. Changing things up by also swapping out the lovely long brown leather couch that fills our living room as well. The problem is, my husband and I see things differently on the this matter. He thinks it’s not wise to make any big furniture purchases while the kids are so little, knowing that a brand new couch may also fall victim to being a napkin for some peanut butter or yogurt. His thoughts are, why spend money on something new that will just get ruined. I hate it because he a little bit right, but I still really want a new couch.
It drives me nuts that the WC is basically used as a napkin by the youngest family members and that it sits in the middle of our main living space with its various stains. It is the elephant in the room and we just keep pretending that it’s okay and that it works in our home. When visitors come over I try to hide the evidence of its life by draping a fluffy throw over it or piling pillows on top. I think that sooner than later the WC might be known as ‘the grey couch’ or the ‘splotchy marble looking couch’.
We haven’t yet reached a mutual decision but I’m leaning towards wanting a vacation and a new couch. Bottom line, if you plan to have kids in your life forgo buying a white couch.