I’m Not Busy, My Days Are Just Full
When friends and family ask me how I do life with work and three kids I dislike saying, ‘Oh, I’m so busy‘. Our days are filled up to the brim from the moment the first kid wakes up till the moment the last one falls asleep. Each day is always bursting with fullness and too often the routine of taking care of my tiny people often means I let my own needs just slide away.
Of course, I try to meet my basic needs and sometimes I actually get breakfast and I’m usually dressed in weather appropriate outfits. On the outside I might look like I have it all together but I’m human and my need to thrive isn’t fulfilled solely on grabbing breakfast on the fly and making it through.
Today I booked a babysitter for the entire day and I am not working. This is huge. To say that I’m giddy with excitement is an understatement. Having a few moments to focus on myself has left me feeling like I can literally catch my breath. Even if it is just for a moment.
I really wanted to make the most of my ‘free time’ and not do the 101 things on my to do list that are for other people. Usually when I have a minute to spare I end up using the time to check something off of my to do list and it most certainly involves my kids or cleaning up messes.
Buy a gift for a classmate’s birthday party. Remember to fill out that permission form. Book the doctors appointment. Make snacks for the class party. The list goes on. Life is full.
First up I booked myself in to see my massage therapist. Massage is something that I absolutely love, besides giving my painful hips and shoulders a moment of relief it also involves one hour of me laying still. Something that my consistently full life craves.
I’ve got a lunch date booked with one of my favourite girlfriends and I’m looking forward to savouring each bite without being interrupted for an emergency trip to the washroom or mopping up spilled drinks. Mamas, you know how it is.
Each day is always bursting with fullness and too often the routine of taking care of my tiny people often means I let my own needs just slide away.
I’m finishing up this day with a trip to the Circle Craft Christmas Market and there will probably be a little hot latte sipping. I’m crossing my fingers to find some cute personalized Christmas ornaments for the kids. Which one may argue is something on my TO DO list but it is also something that will make me happy.
While I’m out and about and when my mind starts to wander to the TO DO list that’s always simmering away in my brain, I’m going to temporarily shut it down and allow myself to be in the moment. There will be no guilt for allowing myself to fill up my hypothetical cup. I will enjoy the time on my own knowing that the hours will truly pass by quicker than expected.